The big FOUR-OH.
Over the hill.
As you can guess, I very recently hit a milestone birthday. The day itself was really nice—my coworkers taped “over the hill” caution tape around my desk and Photoshopped me in pictures from Poldark and Outlander (two great series with hunky male leads). I also had a lovely dinner with my family.
Of course turning a year older, especially one that ends in a zero, has made me a little more introspective. I took stock on where I’ve been the first half of my life and have come up with a list of forty truths I have personally experienced and that become truer with every passing day.
I could make each separate one a blog post, but I’m not going to bore you to death with that or a running commentary on each. So, in no particular order:
- Don’t apologize for your curiosity.
- You have more control than you think.
- There is nothing to compare to the strength you drawn on from your family and friends.
- Don’t waste your free time doing things you don’t absolutely love.
- Travel is one of the best ways to gain perspective.
- Living debt-free is the only way to live.
- Trust your intuition—you’ve spent years cultivating it.
- Pets are little balls of sunshine wrapped in fur/feathers/scales.
- Pick your battles to win the war.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you live with a mental illness.
- Don’t let an opportunity pass by to tell someone you love them.
- Start on your dream today. Right now. Do it now.
- Filling your brain with positivity will fill your thoughts with positivity.
- It’s OK to keep your private life private.
- Journaling is tedious in the moment, but it will vividly remind you of a period of your life that seems long forgotten.
- There is so much freedom in owning less stuff.
- Take time every day to focus on what you’re grateful for.
- Don’t allow your past mistakes to dictate your present reality.
- You are not obligated to follow your family’s religion.
- Your opinions can—and probably will—change.
- Don’t feed the trolls.
- “I could/should have…” is one of the most dangerous phrases.
- Keep your promises.
- It’s OK not to know what the next step is.
- Doing a job just for the paycheck is no way to work.
- I’ve never once regretted getting rid of my TV.
- A walk outside is perfect for shaking loose the cobwebs.
- Nothing is more powerful than standing up for the voiceless.
- The journey from the heart to the head is the longest one of all.
- There’s nothing wrong with taking yourself out to dinner or a movie.
- You really learn who true friends are when you go through a crisis—job loss, illness, etc.
- While there are plenty of jerks on the planet, most people are truly kind and decent.
- If someone is mean to you through no fault of your own, that is completely their problem. It has nothing to do with you.
- No matter how badly someone has treated you, dwelling on how much you hate them will never help. Learn to let go and don’t let them control your lives.
- Having a rainy day emergency fund will help you sleep easier at night.
- No matter what your spiritual belief, take time every day to connect with a higher power.
- Take advantage of being stuck in your car—there is so much to be learned from podcasts or audio books.
- Always look for ways to improve yourself. You will never waste your time doing that.
- I used to love to gossip, but the older I get, the more pointless it has become.
- Laughter is really, truly the best medicine.
Whether you are twenty or sixty, I hope some of my observations strike a chord with you. We are all on this journey together, and my hope is that you will love, learn, and grow along with me every single day. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts—each one of you has helped me grow along the way, and I am grateful for you!
Which of these most resonates with you right now? Comment below!